Is authenticity dead?
We live in a world where it has become not only normal to share incredibly personal information but encouraged whether that’s a vague tweet or a very specific detailed post on Facebook. And I have started wondering is all of this oversharing bad? I have always been on the side of optimistic about technology and really loving the potential of the internet but I understand that not everybody sees it like I do.
I mean obviously I am one to talk. I share horribly personal information to strangers online and I like to think that I’m helping and I’m putting myself out there. That I’m somehow reaching human beings through this cold and personal digital landscape but you know maybe people are actually watching because I’m such a shit show that they can’t turn away from.
This is a topic that I’ve thought a lot about and I knew that my oversharing was really unhealthy when a few years ago it got me into a lot of trouble with some really weird people. It is horrible. Like the thirst for attention is real. So now I know if you’re frantically trying to capture a moment before you can genuinely react to it, it’s probably a bad sign.
So now I try to manage myself by asking why exactly am I sharing this? Am I hoping to spread the word about a good cause? Do I want to inspire or help someone? Or do I just wanna make someone hella jelly?
With sharing, I oscillate a lot between loving the potential and hating the reality because even when it seems like someone is sharing something genuine, when it’s online, it just can’t be 100% genuine. Because we all know how we come across when we post things. There’s always going to be a part of you that purposely paints yourself in the best light and I’m no exception. I mean I know the more honest I am, usually the better the message I write online so even my honesty is ultimately motivated by how sharing with others is going to benefit me.
But I do believe in the power of oversharing.
I do. I think because of the vast, overpopulated nature of the internet, you can learn about anything that literally piques your interest. Like I can find out how many other people have this gross red bumps on their legs from hiking in Bukit Gasing or if I want to know what it’s like to get a colonoscopy, I can read dozens of accounts or even pegging. If I am like what is pegging like for those people, I can read about all the different couples and what they think about this topic.
TMI? There is just no such thing anymore.
The internet is ultimately a tool and how you choose to utilize that tool is completely up to you. Whether you’re addicted or isolated from it, whether it’s a great source of knowledge or an awful place with misogyny, in any extreme or moderation, the knowledge is out there. It’s kinda up to you how much you want to contribute.